A Once-in-a-Lifetime Life: Stop Living for Others - The Law of Solitude and Success

A Once-in-a-Lifetime Life

If You Cannot Endure Solitude, You Cannot Be Free

Do you ever feel afraid and lonely when spending time alone? Many people obsess over social media and conform to others' expectations to avoid solitude. However, true freedom and happiness begin when you face yourself in solitude.

The German philosopher Schopenhauer emphasized, "Face yourself and endure solitude." This is because the process of understanding and growing as an individual is only possible in solitude. If you want to find your own goals and direction rather than living up to others' expectations, you must learn to embrace solitude.


The True Happiness and Inner Growth That Solitude Brings

We often mistakenly believe that more money, higher social status, or a better environment will bring happiness. However, true happiness does not come from external conditions but rather from fully loving and understanding oneself.

How to Utilize Solitude

  1. Spend 10 minutes a day doing nothing but talking to yourself
    • Observe your emotions and desires as they are.
    • Do not avoid uncomfortable feelings; face them head-on.
  2. Focus on your inner voice
    • What do I truly want?
    • Is what I am doing now helping me grow or draining me?
  3. Discover your intrinsic value instead of seeking external validation
    • Free yourself from others' opinions and acknowledge yourself.
    • Happiness is not given by others but is a decision you make.

If Your Emotions Control You, You Become a Slave

Emotions such as anger, sadness, and joy are fleeting. However, the moment they control you, you are no longer a free individual.

How to Control Your Emotions

  1. When anger rises, stop immediately
    • Anger can destroy everything in an instant.
  2. If you feel sadness, face it but don’t let it consume you
    • Acknowledge sadness, but do not dwell in it.
  3. Even in joy, remain grounded in reality
    • Excessive confidence can cloud judgment.

Robespierre led the French Revolution with righteous anger but was ultimately consumed by it. Alexander the Great succumbed to grief over his friend’s death, leading to his downfall. Napoleon was blinded by victory and made fatal miscalculations.

Only those who master their emotions can achieve true freedom.


Do Not Waste Your Time: Eliminate Meaningless Habits

How much of your 24-hour day is spent on yourself? Are you wasting time on smartphones, social media, and unnecessary conversations?

How to Use Time Effectively

  1. Keep a record of your day
    • Writing down how you spend each hour will reveal surprising truths.
  2. Eliminate meaningless habits
    • Reduce unnecessary internet browsing and compulsive social media checking.
  3. Make time for yourself
    • Even 30 minutes, or just 10 minutes a day, invested in personal growth can make a difference.

Face Your Fears: How to Overcome Your Limits

People often remain stagnant due to fear. "What if I fail?" "What if people think I’m strange?" These vague fears hold us back.

How to Overcome Fear

  1. Write your fears down on paper
    • Instead of vaguely thinking about them, put them in writing.
  2. Break down your fears into smaller parts
    • If you fear failure, analyze what you would actually lose from failing.
  3. Take immediate action
    • Do not wait until you feel completely prepared—start now.

Through facing and overcoming fears, we grow even stronger.


Don’t Wait for the Future – Live Now

Most people sacrifice the present, believing, "I will be happy later." However, the future is just another present moment waiting to unfold. If you cannot fully live in the present, you will never find happiness in any future.

How to Live in the Present

  1. Live each day to the fullest
    • If you cannot enjoy the present, you will not enjoy the future either.
  2. Do not expect miracles without taking action
    • Success is not something to wait for—it is something you create.
  3. Realize that this moment is the most precious
    • Life is not a preparation for the future; it is happening right now.

Are You Living Your Own Life?

Do not fear solitude. Control your emotions. Stop wasting time. Most importantly, live in the present. You only have one life. Stop being swayed by others' expectations, and start making changes for your true freedom and happiness—right now!